Dating

NEXT! 

That’s the bulk of my vocabulary when I’m dating.  I rarely go on a 2nd date.  And a 3rd date is pretty much full on commitment.  So a 3rd date is most likely never gonna happen.  

I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years now but I was single almost 8 years.  And believe me, dating as an adult is an art.  Or the opposite maybe.  It is a non art if that’s a thing..  

I got to the point where I was fitting dates in between errands.  If I met someone online that I thought might be worth meeting I would ask them to meet me at the coffee shop at 2pm beside Canadian Tire where I was running to grab something at 1:30.  And by 2:05pm I knew I was out and by 2:30 I might have been driving to my next errand.  Ridiculous.  

What ever happened to good old fashioned meeting through friends?  Not so much luck.  

Maybe the 2020 guy doesn’t know how to handle the 2020 woman.  I get hit on regularly.  And it is almost always a turn off.  As a 50 year old woman, I don’t need a cheesy pick up line, I don’t need anything sexual. I’d like to be treated as a woman.  If a man stood up with strength and confidence and said to me, “You are a beautiful woman.  I like the way you carry yourself.  You are interesting. I would love to buy you dinner and see if we have anything in common over a glass of wine.”  Now that would get my attention.  

At this age, we all have baggage and people are afraid to put it out there.  Afraid to be real.  Sadly some of the young men have nailed this with women my age.  Which may be flattery for a moment but age brings wisdom and age brings experience.  

So if you’re 20 years younger than me, or you are in a relationship please move along.  If you are an emotionally available man looking for true partnership with someone who is of like mind.  Please speak up.  Show yourselves.  Be confident.  Be bold.  It is attractive.  Go after what you want.  

I have taught my daughter that a man goes after what he wants.  I firmly believe that.  I may be showing my age but I believe a woman likes to be pursued.  For those of you women who like to be the pursuer go for it!  Knock your socks off.   I definitely grew up with 2 brothers and a dad who went after what they wanted and then took care of their girl.  So for me, I would wait for the big guy to drive up in his pick up truck pursuing the girl just like the old days.