Change is Hard

Do you think people ever really change?  Or do they stay who they are at their core?

Change is hard.  It takes more than a lifetime sometimes.  Generational behaviours can be almost impossible to change.  Sometimes we begin a journey that our kids may finish for us.  Each generation seems to be more open than the last.  Information is accessible which makes changes with solutions easier to identify.  

Staying is hard.  It is often much easier to run.  Where are we running to?  Where are we running from?  We try to reinvent ourselves with a clean slate.  Is it possible that ultimately we are running from death?  And that all that really matters is knowing and loving someone and really being known and loved back?  Being remembered when we are gone.  

Open dialogue with our kids does keep us more accountable.  When we table something, it brings awareness.  So if we repeat a behaviour we are looking to change, it is now fully exposed.  Smack us upside the head as everyone says in unison... ‘I thought you weren’t going to do this again’.  Awareness brings accountability.

I personally love awareness.  I love accountability.  Even when I fail.  The truth is the truth.  And man I would rather live in truth than anything.  I can deal with making mistakes, I can deal with failure, I can deal with many things but not living in truth I cannot.  And will not.  

Let’s be real.  Even if only with ourselves.  Because here is the beginning of change.  If you feel like you want to change something in your life… I believe this is a great place to start.  Start with truth.  As hard as it is, start with truth.